This past week, I was contacted by a Mom who learned that her little 2 month old has a hearing loss. Another Mom in my MOMs Club passed on my contact information to her, and we spoke on the phone for almost an hour.
Listening to this new Mom's journey, her heartbreak, and her grief, completely took me back to when Christian's Deafness was so new and so scary to us. I felt like I was listening to MYSELF talk. I remember feeling the despair, the guilt and especially the shock. I remember feeling so unsure about what Christian's future. I remember staying up all night wondering if he would ever talk. I remember wondering if kids would make fun of my sweet little boy. I remember feeling alone.
As I was chatting with her, I told her how important it was to have support. I explained that I was lucky to have my friends and family to hold my hand through the ups and downs of learning about Christian's hearing loss. I told her about my close girlfriends who were my guardian angels. The did everything they could to guide me out of saddness, to focus on JUST being Christian's Mom, and to finally let go of the guilt. I told her to not let her child's hearing loss define who he is, and to not let it define who SHE is either.
Just prior to saying our goodbyes, she thanked me for chatting with her and for giving her so much information. Once I hung up, I realized I should've thanked her. Speaking with her reminded me that I am not the only Mom to experience the shock, loss, and grief associated with learning that child is Deaf or HOH. And I still do need to be reminded that I am not alone.