Thursday, August 14, 2008

Are You Going To Find Out?

When I was pregnant with Christian, when people asked me the question "Are you going to find out?", they were asking if we were going to find out the gender of our baby. The person asking usually had a huge smile on their face, with their hands clasped in anticipation.

Folks are still asking us this question with this pregnancy. Instead of a huge smile, it's a look of concern. And their hands are clasped not in anticipation, but almost in prayer. They're not asking if we're going to find out if we're having a boy or a girl. They're asking if we're going to find out if this baby is deaf as well.

This certainly doesn't hurt our feelings, or make us feel weird. It doesn't make me feel uncomfortable, or even upset. It's definitely a natural question, that I am always more than happy to answer it. I usually pat my belly, smile and gently say "No, it's not important to us".

This doesn't mean that we don't have a game plan already in place. We're going to have an ABR done immediately, genetic testing done from the baby's cord blood, and an appointment with our audiology team at Hopkins IMMEDIATELY following the birth. We're going to be armed with information, ready to deal with whatever comes our way, hearing or not. I've already chatted with our EI team, and plans are in the works should they need to be made. We're ready. We're prepared. Which God knows we weren't last time.

By the way, we do plan on finding out the gender of this us, that matters more :)


Jodi Cutler Del Dottore said...


Jenn said...

I just hope you just have fun buying pink or blue :) It crossed my mind for a second about the baby's hearing, but you have established such a great team and are such a hands-on proactive parents. I focused on just gender because this baby has nothing to worry about. Here's to pink or blue, the new blessing we'll welcome! More love to go around! :)

leahlefler said...

Good luck if you have another little guy in there- two boys can run a person ragged (g)!

I just can't wait to see Christian's reaction to the new little one. Matt was completely ambivalent (young at 20 months old), but it is the coolest thing in the world when he gives Nolan a toy or asks him "you OK?" when he falls down. You're gonna love having two!

And I totally can't wait to see if you're having a boy or a girl!

MB said...

How different this time around, to be armed with everything you might need from day 1. Not that it wouldn't mean more work for you guys, but having 2 deaf kids could be kind of cool too!!