When I was pregnant with Christian, when people asked me the question "Are you going to find out?", they were asking if we were going to find out the gender of our baby. The person asking usually had a huge smile on their face, with their hands clasped in anticipation.
Folks are still asking us this question with this pregnancy. Instead of a huge smile, it's a look of concern. And their hands are clasped not in anticipation, but almost in prayer. They're not asking if we're going to find out if we're having a boy or a girl. They're asking if we're going to find out if this baby is deaf as well.
This certainly doesn't hurt our feelings, or make us feel weird. It doesn't make me feel uncomfortable, or even upset. It's definitely a natural question, that I am always more than happy to answer it. I usually pat my belly, smile and gently say "No, it's not important to us".
This doesn't mean that we don't have a game plan already in place. We're going to have an ABR done immediately, genetic testing done from the baby's cord blood, and an appointment with our audiology team at Hopkins IMMEDIATELY following the birth. We're going to be armed with information, ready to deal with whatever comes our way, hearing or not. I've already chatted with our EI team, and plans are in the works should they need to be made. We're ready. We're prepared. Which God knows we weren't last time.
By the way, we do plan on finding out the gender of this baby...to us, that matters more :)