Here we are, 22 days before I'm scheduled to go in and have our little girl, and we STILL haven't finalized a name. Our friends and family know that last time with Christian, we announced his name well before he was born. In fact, we knew his name pretty much from the moment that we knew he was a boy. This time, it's a totally different story.
In addition to worrying about the typical stuff a parent thinks of when trying to name your child (like "Will she get teased"), I'm also thinking of something else:
Will she be able to hear it?
We decided to not get the pre-natal testing done to determine if our daughter has a hearing loss. For us, it was too invasive of a test for something that we really couldn't do anything about until she was born. With our family's genetics, we have a 25% chance of any future children also being Deaf. And, in all honesty, having a child with hearing loss is all we know. It's not AS scary as it was in the beginning. I wish I could say that it's not scary at all, but I would be lying. Even with all of Christian's amazing progress, I still have moments everyday filled with fear and anxiety. The fear and anxiety is normal for us.
So, instead of just trying to figure out what sounds nice with our last name, I'm also trying to find something that a child with a potential profound hearing loss (with high frequency issues) could hear. I've pretty much ruled things out that start with a soft consonant.
I know some people reading this may think that I'm a bit nuts, or I'm over-thinking this. Maybe I am. This pregnancy, I haven't obsessed over the color of my baby's nursery, or even my "birth-plan". Any time that I have had to think about this pregnancy (which has been like 5 minutes every other day), I've used to come up with our game-plan. We have our doctors in place. We know what to do if we do have a failed hearing test at the hospital. Our genetic testing blood draw is finalized. We've even talked about how our life is going to change if she DOESN'T have a hearing loss (no more vacuuming outside of the nursery door at night and large gatherings at our house when the baby is sleeping). I feel ready. I feel able. Even if the hospital bag is yet to be packed and the new crib isn't put together. I know whatever name we chose, will be perfect for her